Facebook Offers a Whole New World of Flirting
The film The Social Network proposed the idea that Facebook’s big turning point was the invention of the “relationship status.” We now, for the most part, don’t have to worry about whether someone is in a relationship or not. Because of Facebook, it’s much easier to tell if someone is taken. It’s the gift of social networking.
Now that you know whether or not your crush is available, the real question is, “Do they like you back?” It may take some investigating and initiative on your part, but you should look for clues before jumping to conclusions too quickly.
And remember, if you keep your focus, then surely you’ll find your soulmate. Or at least, someone so close to a soulmate that it doesn’t matter whether the universe destined it or not.
Tracking someone on Facebook to see if they like you will take analyzing your interactions and examining his or her profile. If you don’t have them on Facebook, then there won’t be much to analyze, will there?
Quantity of Communication
The trick with figuring out whether someone likes you through Facebook is to look at how much the two of you communicate.
- Is there a lot of information going back and forth? You can check out the SEE FRIENDSHIP button to see how much interaction the two of you have.
- Does this person comment on your status often?
- Are they trying to make you laugh or smile?
Here are some ways to indicate or explore your interest:
- Try flirting with your interest by sending them messages, trying to make them laugh, and getting on the same wavelength in general.
- Figure out what you have in common and use it to your advantage, whether that’s liking the same television shows, music, books, etc. You can scan through the interest pages to see where you match up.
- Send positive vibes, and you’ll more than likely have a better shot then if you do nothing at all.
- Don’t worry so much about the “friend zone.” Sometimes this is just a place to be until graduating into something romantic. Lots of people don’t want to date someone they just met.
- They’ll “like” groups or events that you are involved with.
- They will like just about anything you post on their wall or will write a comment.
- They invite you to lots of events, either their own or other people’s.
- They may deliberately make a status update about you. This could be something cute, funny, or romantic that you did.
- They might change their cover photo to something related to the both of you, whether a location frequented or a picture of the two of you.
- If they want to be serious, they may ask to be official with you on Facebook to seal the deal.
- They might post a photo album mostly featuring the two of you to all of Facebook land.
- If you’ve been talking off and on and are practically dating, but not officially, they may switch “single” to blank.
- If they talk about YOUR Facebook in-person, that means they frequent your timeline.
- If they comment on a conversation between you and someone else, and those comments try to lessen the awesomeness of that other person—well that’s self-explanatory.
Note: Don’t be alarmed if you don’t see any of this. Some people don’t care about Facebook and are barely on it. Look for other means of communication to see how they hold up.
Signs on Facebook That They Might Like You
- Sometimes if they like you and don’t want you to know, they’ll end up consistently being the last person to like your status. They could also, well, just be the last person to like your status.
- They’ll post things on your Facebook wall. Videos are a common way of flirting, but it could also just be friendship.
- If you check on other friends’ profile pages and their name doesn’t appear on theirs but frequently does on yours, that’s a sign.
- Does their Facebook usage seem high, and do they seem to be on everybody’s profile? Then they might not be interested in you singularly, even if they’re posting on your wall a lot. Look for other clues.
- How many photos do they have with you? Do any of them have comments or likes on them? That might be a hint.
- Someone who’s crushing will leave comments on the profile of the person they like and like their profile picture, a funny video they posted, their status update, etc, so if there are a lot of comments and likes on your page from your crush, that’s a good reason to raise an eyebrow or two.
- They may join in a conversation on someone’s else’s wall that includes your name.
- They will like your statuses or comment on them often.
- They’ll invite you to their band’s page or something of the sort, and you’ll know you are in the first tier group because there are not that many people yet.
A Note on Messages
If they are using Facebook messages for non-school, non-work conversations, then they are trying to be more personal with you. Try to keep the conversation going.
Facebook messages are a private means of conversation, almost like texting, except it’s more socially acceptable to write more. Whatever is in this communication isn’t meant for everybody.
This can be a good place to plan a hangout if they are shy. This can also be dangerous because some creepers try to use this way of communicating.
Tips for Stalking and Flirting
- Try to figure out what kind of stuff they like to see and send it to them accordingly. This will help keep the conversation alive.
- Find out who they talk to the most on Facebook. If you notice they are communicating often with someone else, don’t jump to conclusions just yet. If they’re just writing on their status updates, they may enjoy that person as a friend. If they are leaving links, pictures, and videos, they might like them.
- Check through old Facebook photos to find out who their exes are and see if they still communicate.
I hope this was helpful! Just remember that every case is unique, so go with your intuition. No one knows your situation as well as you do.