Are you wondering what type of text messages make a man smile and take notice of you?
Perhaps there’s one man in particular whose attention you’re pining for?
Maybe you’re constantly being ignored by guys when you text them and want to put a stop to this?
If so, read on because you’ve landed on my ultimate guide to sending attractive text messages to men.
However, before you use any of them, it’s important for you to read the next few sentences carefully.
I used to be the woman who was always fighting to keep a man’s attention.
To most guys, I was only ever seen as a ‘bit of fun’, never as ‘relationship material’.
It felt like I’d never experience my dream of starting a family with a man who truly loved me.
Thankfully, I was able to turn it around.
It all started when I discovered a little-known piece of male psychology. A deeply-buried primal instinct which appears to be held by most men.
If you can learn how to activate this psychological trigger in a man, you’ll often notice he begins to experience deeper feelings of affection.
It’s called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ – and I credit this for turning my love life around (you can learn how by reading my personal story).
This psychological trigger is really easy to activate once you know how, yet so few people seem to be aware of it.
If you want to stop fighting for men’s attention and have them chase you instead, the best thing you can do is learn how I discovered the power of the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.
Even so, the text messages listed below are great for initially capturing his attention.
Things to Remember When You’re Texting the Guy You Like
When you’re texting the guy you like, whether it’s your long-term boyfriend, or someone you’ve just started dating, there are a number of different things you need to bear in mind to make sure nothing could be misconstrued and to avoid coming on too strong. Texting is a tricky business, and you need to get it just right in order to make sure your guy doesn’t get the wrong impression about you or what you mean, otherwise you might end up with an outcome you definitely didn’t want!
When you’re sending funny, cute texts to him in order to make him smile or laugh, it’s important not to send too many at once and come across as too intense. Instead, try and time it so your text comes out of the blue to make it look a bit cheeky, and avoid texting him back too quickly to keep him on his toes and make him want you even more.
This isn’t to say you should start playing mind games with him, as that will never work, but just make sure you don’t make yourself look too eager to keep some excitement between the two of you by not texting him back immediately after he’s messaged you.
Additionally, you need to evaluate where your relationship is at before sending any of the messages below. If your relationship is in the very early stages and you’ve only been on a few dates, then sending him anything full-on might scare him away – even if you only meant it as a joke.
Instead, stick to a more lighthearted text, something that’s a little bit flirty and funny, but not too intense, as this will make him see your funny side without you coming across as too keen!
I can’t stop thinking about you today
Have you ever been having a tough day at work, and all you want is a text from your other half to take your mind off the stressful task at hand?
Sending this to the guy you’re dating when you know he’ll be having a tough day – or even just to brighten up a mundane day – will make him realise what a catch you are and is sure to make him smile.
Telling him how you can’t stop thinking about him will make sure you’re firmly on his mind too. But that’s not all – the vague, flirty nature of this text is sure to get him hot under the collar, ensuring your next date is a flirty one – it’s a win-win situation.
However, it’s probably best to avoid sending this one to the guy you like if you’ve only been on a couple of dates – or worse – not even met. If you’re not fully involved with the guy you’re sending this text too, then it could backfire and make you come across as a little bit intense and stalkery, which definitely isn’t what you want.
It’s nice to know someone’s thinking about you, but it’s also good to keep some things to yourself sometimes, too. If you’re not sure how he’d react to this one, then don’t send it.
I think our lips need a meeting ASAP
There’s nothing wrong with a bit of a cringey, flirty text now and again (just make sure you don’t make a habit out of it!), but sending this to your man out of the blue is one sure way to make him smile – and more!
Whether you’ve not seen him for a few days, or you’re simply just trying to brighten up both his and your day, then this is the perfect text. Silly, flirty and just a little bit naughty, it’s the ideal way to remind him not only how much fun you are, but how much he likes kissing you too. You just can’t go wrong.
Additionally, if you don’t mind being a little bit forward and flirty with the guy you’ve only been dating for a short amount of time, then this message might also work for you. However, if you’ve only been on one date, then you need to be careful that you don’t come across as too easy or flirty, or you might end up putting him off or giving him the wrong idea about you, so you need to carefully judge your relationship before pressing ‘send’ on this one.
I don’t know whether to start this conversation with a compliment, pick-up line or a simple “hello”… you choose.
This funny, lighthearted text is almost guaranteed to get you a text back, making it perfect to break the ice with a guy after your first date.
As long as he understands your sense of humour, there’s not much that can go wrong with this one. Not only are you giving him the chance to really start the conversation, but it looks like the effort has come for you – it’s a win-win situation, especially when you’re stuck for ways to start a conversation over text.
However, the only downside to this is that you’ll have to be prepared for his response! Unless he goes for a ‘simple “hello”’, which is unlikely – especially if he’s got a good sense of humour, you’re going to need to prepare both a compliment and a pick-up line.
No matter which one he opts for, make sure you keep it lighthearted, a little bit sassy and funny to get the reaction you want out of him – you can’t go getting serious on him after sending him a text like that, after all!
If you’ve been going out with your boyfriend for a while, then this text probably won’t work for you – it’s better-suited to those in the early stages of a relationship, such as those who have only been on one date. If you do send it to your boyfriend, he might get a bit confused as to why you were unable to think of a way to start a conversation with him, which certainly isn’t the reaction you’re looking for!
Instead, opt for one of our other suggestions which are more suited to couples in long-term relationships – they’re a lot more flirty and fun anyway.
Send him a meme
If you’re really stuck for a way to start a conversation with him over text, but you’re still desperate to talk to him, then sending him a funny meme that’s relevant to the two of you is one sure way to make him smile and laugh. After all, who doesn’t love a meme?
The important factor when finding a meme to send him is to find one that’s relevant to something the two of you have discussed, find funny, or subtle makes fun of him, otherwise your desperation to talk to him will come across and work against you!
Additionally, a meme that’s not relevant and clearly shows you’ve just sent the first one you’ve seen in order to talk to him might end up confusing him, leaving him wondering why you couldn’t just strike up conversation over text, which definitely isn’t what you want.
So if you’re not able to find a meme that will scream ‘this reminded me of you’, then you might want to hold back and wait until you find one that does – or better – until he messages you.
There’s a sale in my bedroom right now – everything is 100% off
If you’re waiting for your boyfriend to finish work, get back from the pub or simply wanting to get him to come over to yours – and quickly -, then this is the perfect text for the job. Not only is it super-flirty and cheeky, but it’s also sure to make him laugh. But that’s not all – it’ll also make him hurry up and get to yours just that little bit faster – you just can’t lose.
However, it goes without saying that this one should be reserved for couples who have been together for a while – you definitely don’t want to send it to a guy you’ve just been on a few dates with, especially if you’re looking for something more serious, otherwise you risk coming across as promiscuous and easy – especially if he doesn’t know the real you.
But if you’ve been with your boyfriend for a while, and you’re both totally committed to each other, then this is the perfect text to get him hot under the collar and add a little bit of excitement to your texting game.
Additionally, if you really want to tease him, then make sure you’re fully-clothed when he arrives, and act as if you’ve no idea why he thought you were naked – but ask him if he needs any bedroom furniture, as you’re looking to get rid of yours. This cheeky, stubborn game will drive him wild and make sure the two of you have a very exciting night ahead.
I’ve just watched a Netflix marathon, but you’re still hotter than the bottom of my laptop
Before you send this to any man, ever, you need to be one hundred percent sure that he’s going to take it as a joke, otherwise you risk coming across as a little bit crazy!
However, if the guy you’re sending this to has got a good sense of humour (and needs a little bit of ego boosting) then this is the perfect text to send to him to make him smile and laugh.
Not only is it funny and silly, but it also shows him that even after a killer Netflix marathon, he’s still the one on your mind. And you never know, he might invite himself round for the next time you have a Netflix binge, meaning the two of you can make plans to see each other with popcorn, a blanket and your favourite Netflix show – you just can’t go wrong.
Additionally, this also makes a great, lighthearted opener for that killer first message on Bumble that’s often impossible to think of at the time. It’s the perfect way to flirt with the guy you’ve just matched with, whilst showing him you’ve got a great, breezy sense of humour that most guys love. So next time you’re looking for a great opener that’s not a generic ‘hello’, this is the one for you.
I had a dream about you last night…
Whether you’ve been dating for a few months, or you’ve just spent a rare night apart as a couple, sending this text to your man in the morning is guaranteed to not only make him smile, but drive him crazy too – especially with the ominous ellipsis at the end.
Remember what we said about not being too eager to text him back when he replies to you? Well you definitely need to employ that tactic with this text to make sure you really get his mind into overdrive, thinking about every possible scenario that could have occurred in your dream.
When you do decide to text him back, you can either play it cool and breezy, telling him about the completely innocent dream you had about him, where the two of you just went on a walk or on holiday. Or you can really run with it and tell him about what the two of you really got up to in your dream, making him very excited to see you as soon as he can. Either way, he’ll certainly have a smile on your face.
The way you play this one will depend entirely on your relationship. If you’re texting a guy who you’ve not been seeing for very long, then you might want to play it innocent to keep him on his toes and be a little bit cheeky. However, if you’re sending it to your boyfriend who you’ve not seen for a couple of days, then going all-out to drive him crazy before you see him will only ever work in your favour.
What to do if he ignores your text
If you’ve spent all day thinking up a funny text to make him laugh, but he doesn’t reply – don’t panic! This is especially important when you’re in the initial stages of getting to know someone, as opposed to when you’ve been with them for five or more years!
There are a number of different reasons why he might have ignored your *hilarious* text, but the way you deal with it will completely change the course of your budding relationship. From being busy at work, having a family crisis, to simply forgetting to reply – there are numerous explanations for his lack of communication.
It’s common for people – both men and women – to see a message and read it, but get distracted and forget to reply, so it’s important not to overthink anything and assume that he’s gone off you or doesn’t want to talk to you. You need to give him time to reply to you – whether that’s five days or five hours, if a man wants to message you back, he will, so don’t go crazy sending him hundreds of follow-up texts to see why he’s not replied, or you’ll come across as needy and demanding, which definitely won’t work in your favour.
Instead, play it cool and pretend like you hadn’t even noticed that he hadn’t replied. Men love girls who are easy going and drama free, so giving him time to reply to your text before going mad at him will make him see what a catch you are and have him begging you to go out on another date.
And, if the guy you’ve been on a few dates with doesn’t reply to you – it’s not the end of the world – there are plenty more fish in the sea who will appreciate your funny, silly texts, after all!
First, it totally depends on the guy, there is no template to follow when it comes to things like this. Nevertheless, there are things you could text anyone, let alone someone special to make them smile. Tell him you wish you were together or your life brightened up once he came into it. Generally moving along these lines works for the most part of it.
I may sound like a broken record but once again, this totally depends on the person. In this case, it is advisable to say something personalized, let them know you are thinking of them specifically. If his favorite soccer team is playing that weekend, show some verbal support. You could also go the sexual route and tell how much your body misses him. At the end of the day, just saying something nice about him also wins you points.
Again, this is totally relative, what works for one person may not necessarily score you points with another. Tell him that you cannot stop thinking about him, then add a little something like ‘thank you for always being there for me’. If that’s a bit too much on the ‘PG’ side of things, simply ask him if he wants to mess your bed up with you tonight.
As long as he’s human, there are a handful of ways to stay on his mind. It’s the subtleties that really drive the ball home in this case. It does not hurt to look good and you don’t necessarily have to look like a model to do that; just show your best features. Also, do not be afraid to let your hair down and bro it out sometimes, let your silly side shine.
At the forefront of it all, make sure that you genuinely pick and interest in his life. This on its own yields a lot of results, in addition to that, you could also try to be yourself as much as possible. Don’t try to fit into a box of what you feel a girlfriend to be.
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