Whether you are walking, standing, or sitting, it is essential that you become comfortable in making the space you occupy all your own, whether you are alone or with others. To do this, you must not give any impression of discomfort, i.e., downcast eyes or self-hugging. Instead, be ‘in the moment’ and enjoy your surroundings right now. That is what it means to own your space.
It is all about stopping to smell the roses, so to speak. In other words, practice being at ease in choosing to make yourself the queen of your space. Frankly, in any given moment, the area you occupy really does belong to you, so use it generously. You are much more likely to attract the right man if you are someone who feels comfortable in any given the space you inhabit.
Initially, you might not feel confident with the thought of taking up any extra space, but it doesn’t matter…. just act like you do anyway! Eventually your discomfort will disappear. Just keep your chin up, and most people will not suspect your anxiety. In any event, it is natural to feel a bit of shyness in owning your space when you first begin practicing this important art of attraction. However, your nervousness will soon fade.
So, begin now. I encourage you to first learn to appreciate any small, but pleasurable detail about your surroundings, such as the crispness in the air, the smell of fresh herbs in your food, the beauty of a clear, blue sky. Furthermore, you must practice this art of joy whether you are surrounded by a plethora of people or none..
A specific and very useful example of owning your own space is choosing to dine alone and feel perfectly relaxed doing so. Many individuals will never eat alone, if they can help it, but what better way to make yourself available to an interesting admirer than for you to enjoy a perfectly comfortable, leisurely lunch alone. I saw a man do this once when I was dining with my brother and other family members.
Both my brother and I, who were teenagers at the time, were awestruck by this this unique man who dined as if he had all the time in the world. He was a master at owning his space. He never checked his watch, nor was he devouring a novel between bites of food. Rather, he ate slowly. He savored his wine and sat back to better appreciate the quiet hubbub of the servers and guests on the patio. He was incredibly relaxed. His ease made him impressive, charming, and fascinating. I have never forgotten the impact this stranger made upon me. I was just out of high school, yet this stranger changed me forever.