My Boyfriend Is Texting Another Girl (What Should I Do?)

The guide below features some general tips on how to handle the situation when your boyfriend is texting another woman.

However, the truth is: it can be hard to know exactly what to do unless you’re fully aware of what has been going on.

In many cases, a woman will only know what her boyfriend is willing to tell her. It’s then up to her to decide whether her man is being completely honest.

This tool should help you to make a better-informed decision. It can run a discreet background check on your boyfriend, revealing a ton of information about what he’s been getting up to when you’re not around.

The check includes information about smartphone apps he’s downloaded, online accounts he’s created and who he’s been frequently contacting. What’s more, it only needs a few of his basic details to generate this for you.

With this information to hand, you’ll be in a better position to decide whether your relationship is worth saving.

Signs He’s Texting Another Girl

If you’re not sure whether or not your boyfriend has been texting
another girl, the following signs could indicate that he’s being unfaithful to
you by texting someone else, helping you to decide how to handle the situation.

He’s Always
on His Phone

When you’re spending quality time with your boyfriend, it’s only
polite for the both of you to put your phones away and focus on each other –
especially in a new relationship.

If you and your boyfriend try to avoid going on your phones when
you’re around each other, but your boyfriend is suddenly glued to his phone,
getting notifications every two minutes, and smiling at the texts he receives,
then it might be because he’s texting another girl.

Although it’s never a good idea to jump to conclusions – especially
when it comes to accusing your boyfriend of being unfaithful to you – it’s
worth noting his change in behavior so that you can keep an eye on it if it
continues, especially if he’s showing other signs that he might be texting
another girl.

He’s Become
Protective of his Phone

Has your once chilled-out boyfriend suddenly become incredibly
protective and secretive when it comes to his phone? Then you might have a
reason to worry.

Unless it’s coming up to your birthday or Christmas, when he might
want to stop you from finding out about your surprise gift, then your boyfriend
suddenly becoming protective over his phone might indicate that he’s got
something – or someone – to hide.

Whether he’s started taking his phone to the bathroom with him,
leaving it face-down on the table when he’s with you, or turned his phone on
silent – a change in behaviour around his phone might give you a reason to
worry about – and question – whether or not he’s being faithful to you.

It’s a horrible feeling when you think your boyfriend might be
being unfaithful to you, but it’s important not to jump to conclusions based on
a change in behaviour, otherwise this might actually end up ruining your
relationship.

However, if you have reason to suspect that he’s texting another
girl, and you’re sure you’re not just being paranoid, then it might be worth
taking our advice below and talking to him about the situation in order to save
your relationship.

What to do If Your Boyfriend is Texting
Another Girl

If you’re positive that your boyfriend is being unfaithful to you
and texting another girl, then you need to decide how you want to approach the
situation. There are a number of different ways you can deal with it – and
certain things you should avoid when trying to approach your boyfriend about
his micro cheating.

The following tips will help you to talk to your boyfriend about
what’s going on, helping the two of you to bring up any issues in your
relationship and work through them together if you think your relationship is
salvageable.

The way you approach him about it will depend entirely on the
relationship between the two of you – whether you’re both straight-talking and
honest, or volatile and hot-headed, so it’s important to approach him in a way
that suits the both of you in order to get the best end result from your
conversation.

Approach
Him About it

If you’re the kind of couple who are generally open and honest with
each other, then the best way to sort out the situation – and salvage your
relationship – is to approach him about it.

Even if you’re one hundred percent sure that he’s been texting
another woman, there might be a completely innocent explanation for it, such as
texting a female colleague, an old college friend or his female cousin – just
because you’ve seen a woman’s name on his phone, it doesn’t necessarily mean
he’s been cheating on you.

By talking to him about it, 
you’re giving him the chance to give you his side of the story and come
clean to you if he has been texting another woman. However, if you know for
sure that he’s been being unfaithful to you and he point blank denies it, then
you’ll know your boyfriend can’t be trusted and you’ll have to decide whether
or not you want to stay in a relationship with him, as once the trust has gone,
you’ll always feel on edge when you’re not with him.

However, it’s also important to bear in mind that when you decide
to approach him,  you’re going to risk
hurting his feelings and making him think you don’t trust him – especially if he’s been completely faithful to you. Therefore, it’s best to make sure you have a
valid reason for accusing him of texting another girl before you talk to him
about it, and that you’re not just feeling insecure in your relationship, as
that’s a completely different issue for the two of you to sort out.

But if you know for sure that he’s been texting another girl, then
the best way to salvage your relationship is to talk to him about it before he
gets in too deep. Although it’s never okay to be unfaithful in a relationship,
he might have his reasons for texting another woman, such as feeling insecure
in the relationship and needing a fallback option, so giving him the chance to
open up and talk to you about will allow the two of you to work through your issues
together, without ruining your relationship beyond repair.

Don’t Get
Mad With Him

It’s human nature to get angry when someone you love hurts you, but
as awful as it is to find out that your boyfriend has been texting another
girl, it’s important not to explode at him about it out of the blue. This is
especially important if you’re not one hundred percent sure whether he has
actually been speaking to another girl, and you’ve just got a sneaky
suspicion. 

Getting angry with him from the off will put him on the defence,
making him more likely to either lie to you about it, or start shouting back at
you – meaning the two of you won’t resolve the situation and actually risk
making it worse.

So if you feel as though you might not be able to keep your cool
and avoid an argument, then it might be best to wait until you’re feeling a
little calmer before approaching your boyfriend about texting another girl,
otherwise you’ll both just end up shouting at each other and never actually
sorting out your issues.

However, if you don’t think you’ll ever be able to calmly approach
the situation then it might be worth trying to approach him in a different way,
such as writing him a letter, or talking to him about it in public, where
you’ll be less likely to lose your temper.

End the
Relationship

As hard as it might be to admit to yourself that your relationship
is over, it might be for the best if you catch your boyfriend texting another
girl – especially if it’s not the first time.

If your boyfriend has been unfaithful to you in the past and you’ve
still given him another chance, then catching him texting another girl is
completely heartbreaking. However, it does prove that your boyfriend doesn’t respect you, he won’t ever change and he truly can’t be
trusted – meaning you should value yourself, break up with him and go and find
someone who truly deserves you.

But before you go ending a long-term relationship, you need to make
sure your boyfriend has definitely been texting another woman and it’s not just
a hunch you’ve got.

Whether a mutual friend has told you that he’s been chatting to
another girl, or you’ve seen explicit messages on his phone – you should only
consider ending the relationship if you’re completely sure that he’s been
unfaithful to you, rather than breaking up with him because of a sneaky
suspicion – otherwise it’s something you might grow to regret.

So whether you work through your relationship troubles together, or decide to call it a day, it’s important to make sure you approach your boyfriend if he’s been texting another girl to give the two of you a chance to work through it together.

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