First thing to do was change up the pictures. The pictures I had up were mostly headshots and me standing around doing nothing or me in a group shot (I suppose to prove I have a lot of friends.)
Choose photos that tell a story when selecting pictures to upload to a dating site. Pictures of you doing the things you like to do, (bowling, golfing, singing, being silly, etc) but no selfies, no bare chests (or other body parts) unless you are at the beach playing volleyball or Frisbee. No group shots unless you can really stand out. Guys don’t post pictures with other women, Girls don’t post pictures with other guys (it’s a psychological thing that signals competition.)
Next thing to do is rework the bio. First, don’t lie about anything because it may come back to bite you in the butt. There is no need to lie because you’re looking for the person that is right for you, not the other way around. Write with proper spelling and grammar. Do not write in the same way you text. In this format, it is a sign of laziness.
Don’t share too much information about your current emotional state. Don’t share stories about your ex (good or bad.) When you describe yourself, don’t just say, “I enjoy making people laugh” say something like: “My humor is sort of a mix between Jerry Seinfeld and George Carlin.” That gives a more vivid image about your sense of humor. Write in a way that others you are trying to attract can relate to, unless boring and cookie cutter is what you are after.
Instead of making a list of the things you like or dislike, share a story about it. For instance, if you like to ride your bike, you can write something like:
“I was riding my bike along the beach, as I do every evening, when I heard the music off in the distance. As I followed the sounds I came upon an impromptu street performance. The four man band was playing Jazz, my favorite. I love living in this city because you never know what might be waiting around the next corner.”
It may be cheesy but it tells a story and it reveals some things about me that are not boring: I like to ride my bike every evening, I like Jazz, and I live in a city. I think you get the point.