How To Stop Negative Thoughts – Scientific Ways!

Learning how to stop negative thoughts doesn’t have to be as hard as everyone says it is. I know that a lot of people  like to talk about how “your anxiety is like the ocean” and describe mental health using a bunch of metaphors, but that’s not what this is about. Those metaphors are helpful sometimes, but this blog post is about straight up scientifically proven ways that you can use when learning how to stop negative thoughts. Thoughts that will lead to stress, anxiety or depression.

The methods that I’m going to discuss below all come from CBT, which is one of the most effective (scientifically proven) methods for treating negative thinking and learning how to stop negative thoughts.

Yes, guys – there is a scientifically proven treatment to stop negative thoughts!

The first thing you need to understand is the CBT wheel. It’s very simple and looks like this:

The wheel is made up of four things: Thoughts, Feelings Actions and Core Beliefs.

Core beliefs are the result of the three things in the circle. Let’s use an example.

Thought: “I am ugly”

Feelings: Lack of self confidence, social anxiety

Actions: Avoiding people, not looking them in the eye, not wanting to talk to them

Core Belief: Everybody hates me because I’m ugly

The best part about the CBT wheel is that we can start changing our core beliefs by changing just one of the pieces of the wheel.

Self Care activities often focus around changing your actions. They involve going out to see friends, taking a relaxing bath, exercising etc. and this is a great way to start!


You can also start changing the “thoughts” part of the wheel, and this is what we’re going to focus on today.

When we’re talking about “changing our thoughts” it’s important to understand what an automatic thought is. These are the thoughts that just pop into our heads without our say. They are thoughts we just think about and we don’t really control them.

These are not the thoughts we want to control or change.

Those thoughts (negative or positive) will just happen to us and trying to fight them is sure to backfire.

Instead, we want to focus on the thoughts that come into our head after we have an automatic thought.

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This is the first thought that we should put into our head after we have an automatic thought. We need to ask ourselves immediately if the thought we just had is helpful or not.

If it is not helpful, we need to acknowledge that and replace it with a more helpful thought. This is an example of how that exchange might play out in your head:

“My hair colour is so ugly”

“Is that helpful?”


“Is there a positive thought I can replace that thought with?”

“Today the new episode of Game of Thrones comes out, woo hoo!”

See? the positive thought doesn’t even need to relate to the original problem. In fact, it’s probably better if it doesn’t because if your core belief is that you’re ugly, it might be very difficult for you to think of something positive about your appearance.

That being said, ff you can think of something positive related to the automatic thought that’s even better.

This won’t feel natural at first!

I’m so sorry to say this guys but this is not a sugar coated motivational kind of post. This is the real deal. Doing this method on a regular basis will take away your negative thoughts but it takes time and effort and it won’t be easy right away. Just remember that it will help and start working eventually so don’t give up.

Another way to handle a negative automatic thought is to just completely interrupt it. Just totally throw it off by thinking of something completely random, even ridiculous.

A pink elephant balancing on a red ball and juggling would work.

So would a red panda eating a giant cupcake.

Anything that you can think of to throw your brain off the self deprivating track is going to be helpful. I know this sounds crazy, and like I said it will feel weird at first but you are training your brain.

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When you’re at the gym you might run on the treadmill but you also might do other things that will help with the training that aren’t so directly related to running. You might lift weights, do lunges or jump with a skipping rope.

Training for something doesn’t always have to look like the end result. The pink elephant is just a method to get to the end result which is… no more negative automatic thoughts. 

The pink elephant doesn’t have to be part of your life forever. We’re just using it as a tool to get ot where we want to go.

Putting words after “I am” is very dangerous territory. It’s really something you should never do.

When you say “I am” you are tying a certain word to your actual identity. There are very few things in which we actually are. You can say:

  • I am human
  • I am 5 foot 2 (or whatever height you are)
  • I am Caucasian (or whatever nationality you are)
  • I am a woman (or whatever gender you are)

and..I’m already running out of things.

Whenever you say “I am…” the word after that needs to be an objectively true fact. Here are things that don’t fit that category:

  • I am ugly
  • I am a loser
  • I am worthless
  • I am a burden to others
  • I am unlucky

Let me explain why.

When you say “I am a good mother” you are making that skill part of yourself, part of your identity. 

Let’s say one day you go to change your son’s diapers and notice that there are no clean diapers left. You forgot to pick them up at the store.

Now, instead of that just being a little mistake, you are having an identity crisis!

“A good mother wouldn’t have forgotten the diapers, maybe I’m not a good mother after all”.

This situation didn’t need to get so extreme.

Now if you make another little mistake with the baby you’re going to say “see I did it again, it’s true I’m not a good mother.”

Open the flood gates for negative thinking and self doubt which will likely result in more mistakes and your newest core belief: “I am a bad mother.”

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Don’t make your skills or your opinions part of who you are.

Instead of saying “I am a good mother” you should say “I am the best mother I can be”.

Do this with everything.

“I am very organized” = “I am as organized as I can be”

“I am good at my job” = “I try my best at my job every day”

This is going to help negative thoughts take a back seat. When you tell yourself you’re the best you can be and that you try your best, your brain will start to believe it.

This one is a more advanced technique. If you suffer from very negative thoughts on a regular basis, I would suggest trying all of the above solutions first before going into this one.

This one is more of a nail in the coffin for automatic negative thoughts after you’ve already put a significant amount of time into practicing the above techniques.

There is a silver lining for everything.

I know it’s not always easy to see it, but if you look hard enough you will find it.

Negative situations or events that happen to us teach us lessons and they make us stronger. If there are negative thoughts or negative situations happening in your life, try to see the silver lining. The more you do this, the easier it will get.

I hope that you guys found this article helpful and that you learned how to stop negative thoughts using CBT. Please leave a comment below if you found it helpful or want to give feedback. I really want to start hearing from you guys!

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